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Stop pretending you’re not a vulnerable, somewhat scared human being in a hostile modern world full of traps and unfairness and choices with no easy answers.
We might be able to help you get a toehold in reality here… and the consequences of doing so will stun you.
A life full of wonder, wealth and happiness is almost impossible to come by without this kind of clue.
This is John’s Psych Insight #5:
A substantial percentage of the consultations and hot seats I do often drift at some point into personal lifestyle choices. That age-old question keeps coming up. What’s it all mean? It’s both a good question and a wrong question at the same time.
I long ago realized that humans are as frail as they are tough, as spiritually unmoored as they are committed to family and goals. The rich man suffers. The broke dude has a blast. The beautiful are crippled with fear. The compromised score huge wins.
Below the social surface, you cannot predict how anyone’s life is going at any given moment. It’s an internal process. The main problem is that we seldom confront the notion that we’re a vulnerable species in a dangerous universe, spinning on a globe around the sun in the middle of an endless abyss. That change and challenge and fear are constant companions and our brains sometimes work against us.
For anyone who ever got stoned in college, this kind of rumination can put you in a fetal position sobbing about the angst of being nothing more than a massive chemical and mechanical reaction sheaved in a stack of skin that barely keeps the germs out. However, for those who have cultivated a kind of Zen awareness of life, there’s no terror. There’s no meaning, in fact, to look for.
Meaning is a construct of the front lobe. Facing mortality will either make you want to get going or give up. Suicide is the extreme example of giving up. We all give up all the time, but one way, for example, of playing it out is to watch more TV, desultorily cruise the web, play some video games, watch some porn… maybe get drunk to see if that jars something loose.
Sometimes it seems that anyone with a solid healthy attitude about life just isn’t paying attention to what’s going on. When you realize that you’re in charge of your own script, other options bubble up desfpite the pressures of modern life in the asphalt jungle.
It’s a worthwhile subject to spend time on as you blaze your way toward your goals and business success.